At My Son’s Wake, She Tried To Throw Me Out Of The House I Built-mdue - Chainityai

At My Son’s Wake, She Tried To Throw Me Out Of The House I Built-mdue

The funeral home smelled like lilies, old coffee, and rainwater tracked in from the parking lot.

I remember that more clearly than I remember half the prayers.

The scent sat heavy in the room, sweet and sour at the same time, mixing with the carpet cleaner and the wax from the small battery candles near my son’s framed photo.

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Daniel was smiling in that picture.

Of course he was.

My son had always smiled like the world was one small repair away from being fine again.

If a pipe burst, he smiled and looked for the wrench.

If his truck would not start, he smiled and opened the hood.

If his wife spoke over him at dinner, corrected him in front of guests, or treated kindness like something she was owed, he smiled then too, though that last smile had gotten smaller with the years.

I sat near the guest book in my gray suit, the same one I had worn when I buried my wife, Sarah, two years earlier.

The fabric had gone shiny at the elbows.

The shoulders hung a little loose because grief does not ask permission before it takes weight off a man.

I had Daniel’s funeral program folded in both hands.

I kept rubbing my thumb across the edge of the paper, not because it helped, but because I needed something solid between me and the fact that my only child was gone.

Two months earlier, a car accident had taken him on a road he had driven a hundred times.

One call from the hospital intake desk had turned my life into before and after.

Now people were whispering around me, holding paper coffee cups, saying the right words in voices that sounded borrowed.

I nodded when they touched my shoulder.

I thanked them when they said Daniel had been a good man.

I did not tell them that good was too small a word for a son who used to check my porch light before storms and leave soup in my refrigerator when he thought I was not eating.

That kind of love does not always sound dramatic.

Sometimes it sounds like, “Dad, your left brake light is out. I’ll come by Saturday.”

Sometimes it looks like a hand on a roof beam in August, sweat running down his temple while the two of you try to get one more piece of plywood lined up before the rain starts.

That was the song I wanted played for him.

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